About Lynn
It is said that addiction is a family disease. I used to think that "family disease" referred only to the hereditary nature of alcoholism which was a familiar concept to me - having generational roots deeply entrenched in the disease on both sides of our family. Our loved one suffered from the co-occuring disorders of anxiety, depression and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I always looked to those issues as the problem to be solved, even after alcohol and prescription drugs had long been the "go to" coping method. The journey into and through the ravages of addiction consumed our family for over 7 years and it wasn't until the later years that I actually realized that our family was ill, like our addicted loved one. We had a family disease and were in need of help.
The typical method of dealing with our loved one was to rescue, accommodate and prevent natural consequences. I enabled in this way because I was afraid of death by overdose or legal consequences. I felt less anxious if I was physically close or involved in solving the problem. In reality all my enabling only served to make it easier for the addictive spiral to continue.
I once heard the phrase, "Prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child." I prepared the path for the child and prevented natural consequences that might have shortened the course of addictive behaviors. I was just so afraid to let go of the outcome. I thought that "letting go" meant severing ties and "kicking them to the curb".
I have learned otherwise.
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And now for us, in this moment, we have a beautiful outcome. I learned a new way of being a parent to a struggling adult child and we are all reaping the benefits of a new life in Recovery. I learned that through commitment and dedication to my own well-being that I could positively contribute to my loved one's recovery. I learned that by focusing less on my loved one, caring for myself and dropping denial and expectations we all had a better chance at a new life. My loved one has a firm grip on recovery. I have more peace, and by God's grace we live in that new life today.
It is my mission to share the wisdom from this journey with others through Family Recovery Group Coaching, Education, Workshops and Intensives so that you may shorten your path from pain to peace.
Lynn Mackin
Certified Family Recovery Coach/Life Coach, ICF ACC
Certified Recovery Life Coach, CPRC
The typical method of dealing with our loved one was to rescue, accommodate and prevent natural consequences. I enabled in this way because I was afraid of death by overdose or legal consequences. I felt less anxious if I was physically close or involved in solving the problem. In reality all my enabling only served to make it easier for the addictive spiral to continue.
I once heard the phrase, "Prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child." I prepared the path for the child and prevented natural consequences that might have shortened the course of addictive behaviors. I was just so afraid to let go of the outcome. I thought that "letting go" meant severing ties and "kicking them to the curb".
I have learned otherwise.
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And now for us, in this moment, we have a beautiful outcome. I learned a new way of being a parent to a struggling adult child and we are all reaping the benefits of a new life in Recovery. I learned that through commitment and dedication to my own well-being that I could positively contribute to my loved one's recovery. I learned that by focusing less on my loved one, caring for myself and dropping denial and expectations we all had a better chance at a new life. My loved one has a firm grip on recovery. I have more peace, and by God's grace we live in that new life today.
It is my mission to share the wisdom from this journey with others through Family Recovery Group Coaching, Education, Workshops and Intensives so that you may shorten your path from pain to peace.
Lynn Mackin
Certified Family Recovery Coach/Life Coach, ICF ACC
Certified Recovery Life Coach, CPRC
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When we are ready to make positive changes in our lives, we attract whatever we need to help us. - Louise L. Hay
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